Love is perfect, love is kind…
Dating, man what a messed up topic. In Christian settings they are so confusing! There are so many books of the subject and everybody seems to have there bit to say on the subject. In my experiences one Godly person will say “DON’T DATE YOUR TOO YOUNG” and the next Godly person says “DATE A CHRISTAIN ONLY! AAAAARGH!” and to be honest at the end of that I genuinely don’t have a clue what to do. At the end of the day life is too important to look back on these years with regret. Don’t get me wrong, I'm not saying dating is wrong! However they way our society has twisted dating is massively “unhelpful” to us as Christians. A lot of the time we look at relationships with worldly eyes rather than Godly eyes. Chasing a girl or guy can be great but things that seem right in the moment can lead to regret. Gods way is the only that does not lead to regret.
My question to you is; Do your unsaved mates see the life you live with Jesus is different from the life they live with out him?
Purity is such a big thing, or should be, but embracing a life of purity isn’t necessarily about saying no to going all the way( read sexed up ), its about the way you think, the way you talk, the jokes you choose to say and even laugh at, what you do in your private life. All this comes out through in our attitude to dating and to the opposite sex.
Dating wasn’t really around during biblical times. You were ether married, betrothed or single. No dating went on which isn’t very helpful to us however it does say a lot about how to relate to each other and about marriage and in that there is lots about being a godly man or woman.
Now in some places like school and even youth group an church there can be a dating culture which may press you into getting into a relationship. And all to often people are chasing after guys and girls for fun, which unfortunately more often than not results in hurt. To often we forget your unmarried years are such a gift from God! When you get married you will be spending the rest of your life married. Here are some questions about dating. What is the point of dating, where its going, what will the outcome be? If the answers are marriage orientated then your somewhere on the right track. God designed us to be in relationships, which are firs and mostly with him. God is the author of love so what’s the point in trying to love someone until God teaches you what perfect love is.
UNTIL YOU LEARN TO TRULY LOVE GOD, EVERY OTHER RELATIONSHIP WILL FALL SHORT. We can know perfect love.
THE RIGHT THING AT THE WRONG TIME IS THE WRONG THING.
Principles to apply. Take time, no need to rush. Any relationship must start with a friendship. Keep it public -> accountable. Don’t dump your mates once you start dating. They keep your relationship grounded. Be sensible. Spend time in prayer. Avoid anything that could corrupt your purity.
Mistakes- too focused to get the right person, and neglecting being the right person. Get the relationship with God right. Be Hot like Hell! How to be attractive? Aspire to be Godly. Love God radically. Aspire to marry, but make yourself marriageable! Aspire to be a leader, start with leading yourself. Learn to love like God does. Guys, be obedient to God, even when it doesn’t make sense. Be a real man by being radical for Jesus. Be hot men of God. =p
Girls, have a passion for God. Beauty creates security. Invest in a beauty that lasts. Love god with everything. Be who you are. Love on a biblical standard.
Your value comes from God. Love never fails.
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3 comments:
Interesting article, but I fear you are speaking in somewhat of a radical tongue.
My only question to you is, how can you believe in something (the bible) which forms a corrupt view of everyone who is a non believer? Do we need to believe in god to be good people?
Really inspiring really encouraging. I couldnt wait to start dating b4 but the whole right thing aat the wrong time is the wrong thing really hit my core. To the previous comment you can be a good person without God but without God its not worth anything as it doesnt have a spiritual source to be based on (praying for ya wherever ya are) and praying for you too Phil! God Bless :)
In replay to Matthew- bro, i hope i have understood your question, if not let me know. i don't see how the bible has a corrupt view of non-believers (corrupt in the sense of promoting dishonesty for personal gain) the bible in my opinion sates quite the opposite. "love one another as i have loved you.", when the good shepherd goes to find his lost sheep, "go to the ends of the earth", "be fishers of men". unfortunately us Christian aren't too good at living up to the bibles expectations which i do understand is not right.
why do i believe? it's the truth. why do i believe in gravity? it's true, i stick to the floor. =]
my question to you is how can you tell your a good person? by doing good things? yeah that works. my way of telling if im a good person is like that too.
have you ever told a lie? if you say no, that means yes. =p
have you ever stolen anything? no matter how small, a pencil, a piece of gum, food from someone else's plate?
have you ever got angry at anybody, coz the bible says that by being mad at someone its like killing them in your mind. if you say yes then by your own admission, your a lying, thieving, murderer... as am i. that don't sound like a good person right?
so when you do something bad, most times you go to court and if you tell the judge "im a good person" it won't do you much good once you have killed someone.
what believing in God does is that through the forgiveness through his son is like a guy walking into that court room and paying your fine.
i hope thats not too much to take in dude! thanks so much for challenging this
Take care, Phil
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